Monday, November 1, 2010
One Step Behind!
Do you ever feel like you’re one step behind in the game? What game, you ask, how about the game of life? You know the days where you feel you just can’t catch a break, or you can feel yourself spiraling down into the ever overwhelming abyss of, “just let me sit on my pity potty.” You know those days where you wish you would have stayed in bed, or taken your ball and gone home.
If you’re having one of those days don’t get down on yourself. **NEWSFLASH** we all have those days. Nobody on the face of the planet can say they’ve never had a bad day. And if someone out there says they’ve never had one then they aren’t human. They must be some superior species, in which our government will have to study and probe them with surgical steel tools.
Let’s face it—it is how we react to the situation that makes it an all out landslide of crappiness or a hard gassy hiccup that’s burning as it rises from the ick deep in our bowels.
Whether our moods are sparked by another person’s comment, we physically hurt ourselves, or a situation that is out of our control, we mustn’t forget, it is how we react to it that gives it roots to burrow into our day or wings that keeps it hovering over our heads.
What if we decide to think above the race consciousness of crap! What if a bunch of us decided that we weren’t going to let something “outside” of ourselves dictate our day? What if we actually decided to let what others think, remain in their heads and not ours?
There is this saying that I just love, “what you think of me is none of my business.” WOW, what a statement.
What you think of me is none of my business! That’s right, it isn’t your business what other people think of you. Some of you are mumbling under your breath, “Well Gretch that’s a lot easier said than done!” And guess what, you are right. But give me a couple of paragraphs to explain my reasoning.
Let’s say you over hear someone say something awful about you or a friend tells you what so-and-so said about you that wasn’t nice, in fact it was incredibly hurtful. You’d be devastated right? Hurt, angry, stressed and (fill in the blank). Well, just right before that you were in a different mindset right? Maybe you were thinking about your kids, husband, church, shopping, dinner, or anything more important that the words that ripped through you like a samurai sword. You were probably in a good mood. Maybe you had a song that kept replaying in your head or a recipe you wanted to try of dinner. You weren’t AWARE of any negative thoughts that would suffocate you in self doubt, pity or anger.
There is nothing positive or enlightening that comes from the opinions of others when it is anything less than glorious. I’m not talking about someone coming up to you and telling you that your underwear is showing or you have spinach in your teeth. You know what I am talking about, when someone decides to drag you down into their muck. Cuz let’s face it; our society has been conditioned to answer each other in negative responses.
Imagine what would happen when someone asked you about your day and you answered them with, great, beautiful, or stupendous, instead of okay, could be better, yeah- one of those days again. What if you gave up your less than great stories and let what other people thought about you roll off your back? What would happen to your days? Would you suddenly see that it takes fewer muscles in your face to smile than it does to frown? Would you break free of the definitions other people made for you? I think so. Actually I know so.
The minute you truly decide to give up your story and stop letting other people affect your day you will see that life is better when you’re happy. It is time to redefine who you are. It is time to see that you deserve to be happy, healthy, and prosperous. Surround yourself with people who celebrate life instead of stifle it.
Sure we will still have those crappy days, we are human; but when we realize that we can change how we look at them or react, we suddenly are empowered to be ahead of the game and actually score the winning points.
Only you know who you are, now go be!